Our friends are calling out for our support in their search for help, not calling out for us to be their help.
When she was in 7th grade, Elaine Russell tried to bear the weight of her friend’s suffering. She knew that her friend was struggling with mental illness, and she desperately wanted to “save” her. But, as Elaine eventually realised, she wasn’t equipped to alleviate her friend’s pain, and the idea that we can “save” our loved ones might put unhealthy pressure on us. In this revealing Talk, Elaine shares how she learned that helping others doesn’t mean hurting yourself, and why turning to adults for guidance can be an essential step in recovery.
Thanks to TEDEd Student Talks and Elaine Russell.
Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.
The BBC posted this video with the slightly strange-sounding question; Why have so many leaders lost parents when they’re young? Despite this, I think the speakers in the video express themselves, and the idea behind the BBC’s question far better. You may be surprised to see some of the world leaders who have survived the tragedy of losing a parent and used the resilience grief brought them to benefit others.
Video via: BBC Ideas and BBC Stories.
NOTE: Sound is muted (by Facebook) by default. Please click the sound icon, under the picture to the right. This is why I rarely use Facebook videos.
The bargain that yields mutual satisfaction is the only one that is apt to be repeated.
B C Forbes